As usual got up at 7 in morning and was having bath when this thought struck my mind. Is it the God that really help us out of difficult situation or is it the faith in him that does the trick? If you see all the religious preachers, the most important thing they teach is to have a blind faith in HIM and that will bail you out of almost every difficult situation in life. They always teach that whatever happens, happens for your own good and there is definitely something better in future for you. If something bad happens to you or your close ones, the only explanation they have is that God has just kept it to minor tremors rather than a larger earthquake.
Don't you think that they are just trying to say to be optimistic in life and fills your life with positivity? The more faith you build up in God, the more stronger will be your reaction to any negative thing happening in your life. You will take any big issue that comes your way and will face it whole heartedly. The chances of surviving any disaster in such a frame of mind is more than being a pessimist or a non-believer of God.
So does that mean that those who don't believe in God wont be able to survive such crisis in life? Not believing in God does not stop you from being a highly optimistic person in life. Many of us either have natural optimistic attitude towards life or we rather build up that attitude towards the course of time. We start believing in ourself and whatever we do. This attitude will only do good to your life without any side effects. People in most of the western developed countries have this attitude towards life, most of the time its cultivated since childhood in schools and at home. They enjoy their life, come what may. Maybe that's the reason they don't need religious preachers in life to bail them out of crisis. Very few of them believe in God or are religious.
In India, this attitude towards life doesn't come naturally. May be that's the reason there are so many people who choose the path of religious spirituality to build the faith in themselves and positivity in life. Any path you follow, all we try to achieve is being positive towards life and that will solve half of our issues.
Having said all this, I still strongly believe that miracles do happen. In every one of our life, there will be some incident or some achievement that must have occurred which was almost impossible. Getting 100 in physics was not less than a miracle for me after knowing that my first objective question in that exam was definitely wrong. Some things do happen in life which can never be explained and those things happen irrespective of you being positive or negative. Now if that is what is called God's deed then yes I do believe in God. Even today, if I miss my prayers in morning, my whole day will be some how messed up no matter how much optimistic I try to be. Let me know your views on this :)
Friday 31 July 2009
Thursday 16 April 2009
What You Are, the World Is
Its been more than six months that I have moved away from Birmingham to High Wycombe. Rather I would say, moved away from my friends to a place where I am all alone and not a single known person. Every morning I get up with great difficulty to go to work. There is not the same enthusiasm that I use to have when I use to go to work in India. Then I spend whole day in office thinking how different it is to work here than in India. In India we had a concept of office friends with whom we use to have tea, lunch and snacks; With whom we use to spend time laughing, talking and gossiping and working was just one part of going to office. But here it all complex and professional. People just work and go home and don't have time to talk or laugh or even have lunch with their colleagues.
After long tiring day in office, I come home and again spend the rest of the hours sitting in front of that stupid laptop and just browsing through news and Orkut profiles. That makes me more lazy and then the whole idea of cooking food for one hour just kills me. And finally I end up eating ready made "Shana" food with bread. And in between this daily routine whenever you meet any of your friends either in office or somewhere else, you just talk about how bored we are in this country and ponder over whether we took the right decision by coming to this country.
This is really a sad and boring life, is it not? But who is responsible for this life? I think I have to blame myself for this kind of life. What you do in your everyday existence, is projected outwardly, and that constitutes the world. If we are miserable, confused, chaotic within, by projection that becomes the world, that becomes society. I myself have created a gloomy world around me and I keep cribbing living inside it all the time. I always forget that there is more to life and there is a different world outside this melancholy world. What You Are, the World Is.
The transformation of the world is brought about by the transformation of oneself. To see the change in the world you need to bring the change in yourself. Unless you change yourself, the world will remain the same obscured place to live in. If you are optimistic towards life and keep enjoying whatever comes in its way then people will come close to you, they will like your company and will spend more time with you. No one in this world will love to stay with a depressed, insecure person all his life. Now that I know where I am going wrong, my next step should be to bring a Change in my life. So i better go and cook now even if it is 9.30pm here. This will be my first step towards the change in my life.
After long tiring day in office, I come home and again spend the rest of the hours sitting in front of that stupid laptop and just browsing through news and Orkut profiles. That makes me more lazy and then the whole idea of cooking food for one hour just kills me. And finally I end up eating ready made "Shana" food with bread. And in between this daily routine whenever you meet any of your friends either in office or somewhere else, you just talk about how bored we are in this country and ponder over whether we took the right decision by coming to this country.
This is really a sad and boring life, is it not? But who is responsible for this life? I think I have to blame myself for this kind of life. What you do in your everyday existence, is projected outwardly, and that constitutes the world. If we are miserable, confused, chaotic within, by projection that becomes the world, that becomes society. I myself have created a gloomy world around me and I keep cribbing living inside it all the time. I always forget that there is more to life and there is a different world outside this melancholy world. What You Are, the World Is.
The transformation of the world is brought about by the transformation of oneself. To see the change in the world you need to bring the change in yourself. Unless you change yourself, the world will remain the same obscured place to live in. If you are optimistic towards life and keep enjoying whatever comes in its way then people will come close to you, they will like your company and will spend more time with you. No one in this world will love to stay with a depressed, insecure person all his life. Now that I know where I am going wrong, my next step should be to bring a Change in my life. So i better go and cook now even if it is 9.30pm here. This will be my first step towards the change in my life.
Thursday 2 April 2009
We Do Not Love; We Crave to be Loved
Getting up in the morning with a short and sweet conversation with her (at times with an argument), spending your day having fun, watching movies, lovely walks alongside the beach, a wonderful dinner together (at times fighting on petty issues, arguing and compromising), is this what Love is all about?? There is definitely more to it than just being together and love is never static or fixed. Through constant friction, hope and frustration, that which was beautiful and simple becomes fearful and expectant. Relationship is complex and difficult and few can come out of it unscathed.
Most of the relations are mutual gratification and use, though we give it a tender name of LOVE. We safeguard the things we love, because without them we would be lonely and lost. There is always a usage in any kind of relationship, which keeps the hope alive and we use it for personal gratification. Love that uses,exploits and then feels sorry, cannot be love. When there is use, there must be possession; possession breeds fear and with fear comes jealousy, envy, suspicion and lack of trust. If you observe, what makes us stale in our relationship is thinking, calculating, judging, weighing, adjusting ourselves; The only thing that frees us from that is love, which is not a process of thought.
Love is never static, it is a continuous process and it keeps moving as the life progresses; it is to be nurtured at every stage. Just by mere use of relation for personal gratification would never keep the flame alive. Its all about giving unconditionally to each other instead of just demanding from each other. Love is a fusion of two separate identities, you have to know yourself and she has to know herself in order for any relation to succeed. That means to love. Love is fresh, new, not mere gratification, not mere habit. It is unconditional.
If both of you are isolated, each pursuing his or her own interests, ambitions, needs, each seeking from other pleasure, economic or psychological, then such a relationship is not a relationship at all- it is a mere source of satisfying psychological, biological and economic necessity. In habit there is no love. In most of the relation ,we consider our partner to be a permanent source of pleasure, a habit without understanding, without love and once you stop getting that pleasure and happiness then you start searching it somewhere else.
Most of the relations are mutual gratification and use, though we give it a tender name of LOVE. We safeguard the things we love, because without them we would be lonely and lost. There is always a usage in any kind of relationship, which keeps the hope alive and we use it for personal gratification. Love that uses,exploits and then feels sorry, cannot be love. When there is use, there must be possession; possession breeds fear and with fear comes jealousy, envy, suspicion and lack of trust. If you observe, what makes us stale in our relationship is thinking, calculating, judging, weighing, adjusting ourselves; The only thing that frees us from that is love, which is not a process of thought.
Love is never static, it is a continuous process and it keeps moving as the life progresses; it is to be nurtured at every stage. Just by mere use of relation for personal gratification would never keep the flame alive. Its all about giving unconditionally to each other instead of just demanding from each other. Love is a fusion of two separate identities, you have to know yourself and she has to know herself in order for any relation to succeed. That means to love. Love is fresh, new, not mere gratification, not mere habit. It is unconditional.
If both of you are isolated, each pursuing his or her own interests, ambitions, needs, each seeking from other pleasure, economic or psychological, then such a relationship is not a relationship at all- it is a mere source of satisfying psychological, biological and economic necessity. In habit there is no love. In most of the relation ,we consider our partner to be a permanent source of pleasure, a habit without understanding, without love and once you stop getting that pleasure and happiness then you start searching it somewhere else.
Monday 30 March 2009
Friends Forever
It was 5 in the morning and everyone went to their room after celebrating Kapil's birthday. I had as usual traveled from Stokenchurch to Birmingham to be with my friends. We had a real blast with some very close friends around and were tired after 5 long hours of drinking, laughing and some emotional talks. After everyone left it was just Kapil and me talking and laughing even at 5 in the morning (tumhara koi beta hai??? Shhhhh aaj se main tumhara beta hun.. ha ha ha. That was the joke of the century). The day seemed to be very short and I really wished it lasted long. I had never laughed so much in last five – six months. It made me really think that how important friends are in your life.
I don’t express any emotions especially when it comes to male friends. I keep it to myself but I would really like to dedicate this blog to my friends Kapil, Pawan, Umang, Honey, Manik and Ankit. It was only because of them, I could stay away from my family and still be happy. They have been with me all the time when I needed them the most. I still remember how I use to crib all the time in last 6 – 7 months and they use to listen to me without complaining. And they did all this specially when they were going through hard times. I am really lucky to have friends like them.
Thanks guys for being with me and supporting me in every phase of my life. We all really rock together and I bet that if we write a book or make a movie on our stay in UK, it will be the best seller of all time.
I don’t express any emotions especially when it comes to male friends. I keep it to myself but I would really like to dedicate this blog to my friends Kapil, Pawan, Umang, Honey, Manik and Ankit. It was only because of them, I could stay away from my family and still be happy. They have been with me all the time when I needed them the most. I still remember how I use to crib all the time in last 6 – 7 months and they use to listen to me without complaining. And they did all this specially when they were going through hard times. I am really lucky to have friends like them.
Thanks guys for being with me and supporting me in every phase of my life. We all really rock together and I bet that if we write a book or make a movie on our stay in UK, it will be the best seller of all time.
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